30 Days of Thanksgiving: Day 16
I'm kinda surprised I've been able to keep this thing going...sometimes it means late night posts, or early morning 'catching up' but it's allowed for some awesome reflection and quiet time. And I'm over the halfway hump!
Today's thanksgiving is going to seem like a strange one...but here it is. I'm thankful for difficult conversations, conversations that can bring tears or bring up hurt...but that ultimately lead to a better situation.
I read a book in graduate school called "Difficult Conversations" and I remember liking it but thinking, I HATE THOSE! I have been and always was a person that hated confrontation, or bringing up difficult issues. I would run from it like the plague. Perhaps it is age, perhaps it is being married to my husband...but I've learned that sometimes that is what it takes to go forward in a relationship and to allow things to get better.
I used to suppress my feelings when things bothered me because I wanted to keep peace...I'm ultimately someone who is a peacemaker...but by doing so I led myself to more distress because I would worry and fret about what wasn't being said, letting it eat at me. It would produce so much anxiety...so much over analyzing...at times making me literally sick to my stomach. I don't think we are called to live with that much worry...in fact I know we aren't...
I still struggle with this...I haven't perfected it. But today I was reminded what healing comes when you can just be honest with someone, even if it means speaking your hurt or your confusion. I'm so thankful for the people in my life who can do that with me because it means they are willing to go through a few minutes of discomfort to make our relationship stronger...and I'm really thankful to by husband who has taught me more and more that there is no need to fear those things. God has a way of working them all out...
I don't go around looking for them, and I definitely don't wait anxiously for an uncomfortable conversation...but I know that when they happen, at some point, if meant to be...they allow healing to begin...
Today's thanksgiving is going to seem like a strange one...but here it is. I'm thankful for difficult conversations, conversations that can bring tears or bring up hurt...but that ultimately lead to a better situation.
I read a book in graduate school called "Difficult Conversations" and I remember liking it but thinking, I HATE THOSE! I have been and always was a person that hated confrontation, or bringing up difficult issues. I would run from it like the plague. Perhaps it is age, perhaps it is being married to my husband...but I've learned that sometimes that is what it takes to go forward in a relationship and to allow things to get better.
I used to suppress my feelings when things bothered me because I wanted to keep peace...I'm ultimately someone who is a peacemaker...but by doing so I led myself to more distress because I would worry and fret about what wasn't being said, letting it eat at me. It would produce so much anxiety...so much over analyzing...at times making me literally sick to my stomach. I don't think we are called to live with that much worry...in fact I know we aren't...
I still struggle with this...I haven't perfected it. But today I was reminded what healing comes when you can just be honest with someone, even if it means speaking your hurt or your confusion. I'm so thankful for the people in my life who can do that with me because it means they are willing to go through a few minutes of discomfort to make our relationship stronger...and I'm really thankful to by husband who has taught me more and more that there is no need to fear those things. God has a way of working them all out...
I don't go around looking for them, and I definitely don't wait anxiously for an uncomfortable conversation...but I know that when they happen, at some point, if meant to be...they allow healing to begin...
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